Attention to Real Life
Often individuals who are learning to be mindful comment that they are not really sure they want to pay attention to what is going on in their life. In fact, it is common that mindfulness practices are sometimes used in an attempt to distract from what is going on rather than to engage with the difficulties that are part of life. Why does this happen? If we do not pay attention to what is happening in life, it still happens! And there are consequences for the decisions we make or avoid making. Yet we all do it. It is hard to engage when things are painful or disappointing or even just unexciting. Being mindful does not protect us from trouble, but it does provide a way for us to overcome the challenges in life. I have found that it helps to pay attention without pre-judging myself or the situation. It is better if this is done with intention. I try to expand my awareness to include awareness of my emotional state in the moment, as well as the details of the circumstances. What tools do you find helpful to pay attention? John Weaver, Psy.D.
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Very good comments, John.
What you wrote about paying attention to what is without pre-judging myself or the situation reminds me of our discussion of entering with a beginner's mind. The idea of beginner's mind has taken root for me. So,having an open acceptance, with an intention to know where I am and what I feel help me to be here now. When I am not here now, I miss connection with others and often forget what's been said.
Kathie
Posted by: Kathie | December 3, 2008 09:21 PM